Most of the time I think I’m normal, and other people are the weirdos. However when I list the things we do that are not mainstream, I realize that no, I’m pretty much the freak. Everything from co-sleeping, to parenting choices, to my own passions, to my politics, to the way we eat–all of it is what I would consider counter culture. On the one hand, I’m happy to not be a jump-off-the-bridge-because-you-said-so kinda of a girl. On the other hand, it does get a little exhausting constantly fielding questions about “why” we do what we do. I should just give them my card and they can come here and read all about it.
For the most part, my decisions about who I am and what kind of a mom I want to be, were not necessarily planned out ahead of time. They evolved organically, out of circumstance, and seemed to me to be the natural choice in any situation. I don’t regret any of it, and I love that my life is interesting to others (because it seems pretty normal and boring, at times, to me!). Clearly I don’t mind talking about myself, right?
The biggest thing for me is that I hope everyone realizes that just because I might be different from you, or rather, if you are different from me, I do not judge people for their life choices. I might have an opinion, but it’s just my opinion, and what we are doing as a family is what is best FOR US. I have friends of all faiths, personalities, styles, life choices, etc. What we have in common is that we like each others’ heart, and that is ultimately what matters. We don’t all have to pick the same things out when we go to the grocery store or at the clothing store (or at the hair salon!) to be friends, and I’m ok if you think what I do is “weird”. I’m strong enough in my own self to not worry about that, and I hope that you are as well.