Here I go: I Don’t Hate Tom Cruise.
There, I said it. I feel so much better.
At the risk of being labeled a crazy mo fo, and despite the fact that one of my favorite blogs just posted about this same topic (see CitiMama), I need to come out of the closet.
I AM HAPPY FOR THEM.
Now, pick your jaw up off the floor, and indulge me for a smidge or two.
First, a little background.
I am by no means a crunchy-nature-loving mom. However, I randomly surprise my husband and myself with major conviction about certain areas of life that I prefer would remain “natural”. Here’s a short (except, not) laundry list:
-I had fertility problems and it took us a year to conceive my first child. I finally got pregnant after going the natural route and going on natural progesterone cream and herbs.
-For my first pregnancy, I used a midwife and I planned on being drug free. After 38 hours of labor I had to get an epidural to get through the last 5.
-I refused to give my first born, Charlie, any vaccinations at first. I decided to wait until he was older, and then give them only one at a time, and only a few select ones. However, as Charlie got older, I had a gut feeling that those stories of children becoming autistic as a result of certain vaccines would pertain to Charlie. I couldn’t explain it, except that I had an inkling that he was vulnerable. He has never been vaccinated. Ever. At age two Charlie was diagnosed with Autism, and his pediatrician and us (we?) all believe that, instead of having high functioning autism, he would be even worse had he ever been vaccinated.
-Charlie nursed until he weaned himself at 20 months, halfway through my second pregnancy. He never drank a drop of formula.
-Charlie co-slept with us from birth until he stopped nursing, and still comes into our bed around 5am every morning.
-My second birth was at home in a birth pool. I breastfed Jamie as well.
-Jamie has also never been vaccinated as of yet. I haven’t decided if he ever will, but at this point I am still “waiting”.
-Neither son is circumcised.
-I wore Jamie in a sling all the time up until he was too heavy to do so. Now he gets to ride in it occasionally when out and about, but not around the house all day like before.
-I only buy hormone free milk and buy organic food as often as financially possible.
-I only use natural laundry soap.
-I only use all natural skin care, make up and vitamins.
-I almost always use herbs, natural supplements and homeopathic medicines before even thinking of using drugs.
-While we have MD’s on the payroll, our regular doctor is a chiropractor.
-I refuse to go back on the Pill, or any other hormonal birth control because I think it wrecks your body (I already let it do that to me once) and I hope to have children again some day. We use condoms. Every time. No matter what.
-I take about 6-7 different natural vitamins and supplements every day.
-I am depressed (post-pardum? post-autism? who knows! They happened within the same week.) but have chosen to take natural supplements for now. They work. For me. If/When these stop working I’m not above taking the anti-depressants out there. I know they have helped probably millions of people feel normal and find themselves again.
Now, since I got that out of the way, let’s get back to The Most Hated Couple In The World.
I feel sorry for them. First, there’s Tom. Yes, he acted like a complete crazy on Oprah. Yes, he said some things about depression that many people disagree with. But why should that make him public enemy #1? I seriously do not get the public hatred. Many people have acted psycho on national television. Many Hollywood eliites have weird opinions. What’s with the villification? (If that’s not a word, I just made it one.)
Now Katie. Poor Kate. The entire world believes she can’t think for herself and is somehow a prisoner. I would want to get pregnant to prove I’m “serious about him”, just to spite them.
I think its very sad that they were hated for being in love. Who are we to say if they are, or aren’t? I say do whatever the hell you want, just as long as it isn’t hurting people or inconveniencing me.
And when we found out Katie was pregnant? It seemed to fuel the already gargantuan bonfire roaring just to make fun of them and smear them. Sure I may have said “Screaming Jesus On A Ferris Wheel!”, and may have even sharted, but these people are having a BABY. How many people in the world would kill for that? How amazing gorgeous and fabulous are BABIES?! They are a miracle and a reason to be joyful. I don’t want people telling me how to parent, so I don’t judge other parents. I refuse to judge people on how they will parent in the FUTURE, simply based on their media persona. Besides, Katie got the biggest screwvenir ever!
One more thought on the whole depression, “there’s no such thing as a chemical imbalance” thing. Where are all the other scientologists when Tom needs them? I would assume that all scientologists have the same opinion on medicine, why are they so happy to see Tom led to slaughter as long as they don’t have to admit they feel the same way? I am not a scientologist, but I don’t think the entire country needs to be hatin’ on another religion. That’s what China is for.
Also, I know that MANY people in the “natural community” feel the same way as Tom about the whole depression thing. I just wish they had a louder voice. I’m not saying I agree or disagree, I’m just saying it really bothers me when people are spun into total outcasts, where a pregnancy is cause for MORE fodder, simply because they have opinions out of mainstream USA.
I think my TomKat opinion is definitely WAY out of the gray and into more of a technicolor green.
Well, Internet, I guess that’s why I’m one of the few Republicans, living in Los Angeles, whose best friends are all Liberals! Heh.
P.S. I still think he’s cute and I like his movies.
::ducks and runs::
UPDATE: I forgot to mention that for a while they thought Charlie had a seizure disorder, which, if you have it, is an indication for not being vaccinated.